Do you wonder what it would be like to HAVE a social life… Are you in a relationship that precludes spending time with anyone except your partner? If you are not “allowed” to go out with your friends, or alone, or if you have to “ask” for permission to do so, there is something wrong!
Do you get accused of extramarital affairs? I don’t thing anything sucks more than being accused of wanting to have sex with every man on the planet, especially after your sex drive has been effectively decimated by a partner who doesn’t respect you in the bedroom.
Does your partner stay out late regularly? Does s/he phone well after the time expected home and come up with some excuse why s/he’s late, and then say “I’ll be there soon” and not show up for hours? Or have you made plans to meet at a certain time and they don’t show up, or they are so late you can’t do what was planned?
Does your partner drive recklessly? Swear at every other driver on the road? Speed unnecessarily, particularly in the city? Do you feel safe driving in the same car?
Has your partner ever told you “no one will ever love you as much as I do”?
Do you ever wonder if you are alone with your thoughts and fears about relationships?
Do you ever think that maybe you are just imagining how bad your situation is because of all the media attention that abuse is getting these days?
Do you ever hear yourself saying…It’s not THAT bad, really… except when…”?
Do your friends ever say…”You deserve better than that…”?
Have you ever heard your spouse say things you only thought they said in the movies…?
Have you caught yourself planning what you will do when you are OUT of THIS relationship?
Have you written a list of all you want in a partner, and noticed that your current one doesn’t fit in there?
Is the light bulb coming on now??
These are all things that happened to me while I was discovering that even I - “Ms. I-Won’t-Take-Bull-From-Any-Man” - could fall into the trap of an insecure, controlling, manipulative, and ultimately abusive, partner. YOU DON’T HAVE TO TAKE IT! It doesn’t matter if you are male or female, white or orange or black or green, Muslim, Aethiest, Catholic, Wiccan or Buddhist; straight, gay, lesbian, bi or transgendered… You DO NOT HAVE TO STAY in a relationship that is destructive to your self-esteem, your self-image or your emotional and physical, or even financial, health.
EVERYONE DESERVES TO BE HAPPY. If you are not happy, look at the reasons why. If you can change any of them, what is stopping you? Fear? Fear is a huge block for all of us. Facing that fear could change your life. Facing your fears, coming to terms with them, overcoming them - those are the keys to a happy life. Some of them may take years to deal with, why not start now? Some of them simply require a little kick in the butt from a total stranger. Well… what are you waiting for? Don’t you deserve to be happy too?
Do you get accused of extramarital affairs? I don’t thing anything sucks more than being accused of wanting to have sex with every man on the planet, especially after your sex drive has been effectively decimated by a partner who doesn’t respect you in the bedroom.
Does your partner stay out late regularly? Does s/he phone well after the time expected home and come up with some excuse why s/he’s late, and then say “I’ll be there soon” and not show up for hours? Or have you made plans to meet at a certain time and they don’t show up, or they are so late you can’t do what was planned?
Does your partner drive recklessly? Swear at every other driver on the road? Speed unnecessarily, particularly in the city? Do you feel safe driving in the same car?
Has your partner ever told you “no one will ever love you as much as I do”?
Do you ever wonder if you are alone with your thoughts and fears about relationships?
Do you ever think that maybe you are just imagining how bad your situation is because of all the media attention that abuse is getting these days?
Do you ever hear yourself saying…It’s not THAT bad, really… except when…”?
Do your friends ever say…”You deserve better than that…”?
Have you ever heard your spouse say things you only thought they said in the movies…?
Have you caught yourself planning what you will do when you are OUT of THIS relationship?
Have you written a list of all you want in a partner, and noticed that your current one doesn’t fit in there?
Is the light bulb coming on now??
These are all things that happened to me while I was discovering that even I - “Ms. I-Won’t-Take-Bull-From-Any-Man” - could fall into the trap of an insecure, controlling, manipulative, and ultimately abusive, partner. YOU DON’T HAVE TO TAKE IT! It doesn’t matter if you are male or female, white or orange or black or green, Muslim, Aethiest, Catholic, Wiccan or Buddhist; straight, gay, lesbian, bi or transgendered… You DO NOT HAVE TO STAY in a relationship that is destructive to your self-esteem, your self-image or your emotional and physical, or even financial, health.
EVERYONE DESERVES TO BE HAPPY. If you are not happy, look at the reasons why. If you can change any of them, what is stopping you? Fear? Fear is a huge block for all of us. Facing that fear could change your life. Facing your fears, coming to terms with them, overcoming them - those are the keys to a happy life. Some of them may take years to deal with, why not start now? Some of them simply require a little kick in the butt from a total stranger. Well… what are you waiting for? Don’t you deserve to be happy too?
